Comments on: Teen Drinkin Party

By: what is a migraine?

what is a migraine? — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 09:40:13 +0000

My friend referred me to your blog, so I thought I’d come have a read. Very interesting material, will be back for more!

By: brian

brian — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 08:50:44 +0000

No question. You call the parents. Some day your kid may get behind that wheel after just a couple of beers or get into a car with someone who had just a couple of beers and thats a decision you would wish you would have had back forever. It’s just a party

By: C. C. Spencer

C. C. Spencer — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 21:42:57 +0000

It all sounds great. Just a few headaches and vomiting.
But what if your daughter had been arrested when the police arrived at this illegal party or the house was badly damged by drunken teenagers or one of her friends binged and died. What would you say to the parents who didn’t get lucky?
Pretty easy to take away a positive lesson when nothing horrible happened.
What it seems like is you took a very big risk and got lucky. If you felt strongly about this, why not sponsor a party where you could supervise the drinking and provide some safety to very risky behavior. I say shame on you for breaking the law and “trusting” your daughter to do something stupid.

By: Terri Lovejoy

Terri Lovejoy — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 18:22:09 +0000

I disagree. This Memorial Day Weekend there was a huge “Rave” in South San Francisco @ the Cow Palace. Aprox 5,000 teenagers attended. Ecstacy was bought & sold. So far 10 OD’s reported…
1 Death, 2 coma’s, 3 still critical, 4 still hospitalized but recovering.
The father of the boy who died didn’t get to see his son before he died. His “friends” had emptied his pockets..no ID. They didn’t want the boy to get “busted” with “E” on him.The ER didn’t know what he had ingested, & couldn’t notify his family.. they couldn’t revive him, so he died alone. My point is So you lose a friend, or piss off a teenager…you might just save a life! Teenagers are ill-equipped to handle such emergencies! Let’s not forget the raging hormone issues…no parents could equal pregnancy too! Kids will have plenty of time after turning 18 to police themselves..

By: Bob Craig

Bob Craig — Mon, 31 May 2010 23:21:38 +0000

Excellent article, Kerri, sounds like I have much to anticipate with my 7 and 9 yr. olds….

By: Dr. Harold Shinitzky

Dr. Harold Shinitzky — Mon, 31 May 2010 21:34:15 +0000

Decision-making, a skill needed by children and adults. Kerri emphasized the choice that a parent needs to make. Control or Trust. As a parent, it is your responsibility to provide two key developmental points for their child, Roots and Wings. You can provide tradition, values, role-modeling, and be a resource for your child to turn to for insights. You also have to believe in your lessons that you have taught, the behaviors that you display, and the problem-solving skills to manage their lives.
As Confucious saud (please excuse the gender preference), Catch a man a fish, he has food for a night. Teach a man to fish, he has food for life.
You need to be establishing open lines of communication with your child as early as possible. Prior to this specific situation, you can discover how your child coped with pressure by her peers. How they make choices that take into consideration both the reqards and consequences for their actions.
Your child’s ability to display healthy decision-making is fostered well before the demands of peer pressure. Your child’s self-esteem and long-term goals will invariably impact their choices. An ounce of prevention.
Kerri, keep us up to date on the latest of life’s challenges and we will all be thankful.